Modesty, shyness, gentleness - these qualities are not so bad, but it is not easy for people who possess them. Choose the ones you like, but rather use them in a comprehensive way.
10. The method of "gradual loads"
This technique consists of many steps to overcome yourself. First you need to understand what causes your insecurity. For example, if you are afraid of communicating with strangers, you need to learn how to talk freely with them. Every day, step out of your comfort zone, step by step, the fear will gradually go away. First go to the shops, talk with sellers, ask for advice from other buyers. You can visit the library, museum. Share your opinion, take an interest in the point of view of others. At first it will be very difficult for you, but after a while, you realize that you can easily start a conversation with a stranger.
9. Depreciation
This is a very useful skill. Learn to discount - life will become much easier. A person often exaggerates the significance of a given situation. He thinks that in case of failure, his life will change for the worse. Such thoughts provoke the appearance of excitement and fear. This is not so difficult to do. Think about what will happen if you are not hired for this job. You will not receive a salary, you will have nothing to pay the bills, you will starve to death. You understand that this is not so. If your candidacy does not suit this employer, you can always get a job elsewhere. So should I be upset? If all else fails, ask yourself the question: “Will I worry about this in 10 years?”. If not, then do not worry now.
8. Spontaneous actions
If you know that you have an important conversation ahead, you probably have already planned all the questions and answers. Unfortunately, often a person cannot predict what they will ask. Many continue to plan even during a conversation. Stop doing this. Listen to the interlocutor and say the first thing that comes to mind. Otherwise, the brain begins to regard what is happening as something important. There is a sense of danger. Many in this situation are lost, fall into a stupor.
7. A living example of a bold act
The example of another person helps some to gain self-confidence. You just need to observe how others behave in a similar situation. If these are your friends, you can ask them to tell you about your feelings at this moment. Any person, even the most modest, does not want to be worse than others. When he sees that other people are coping with this task, it is easier for him to overcome his shyness. Of course, you have to step over yourself. But if such a situation recurs in the future, you will come out of it as a winner.
6. Relaxation
When a person is under stress, his muscles tighten. Scientists have long discovered the relationship between spiritual and physical conditions. If you are worried, afraid, try to relax. Imagine yourself in a comfortable environment, think about what can distract you from unnecessary experiences. You can relax the body, calm down, fear and excitement will recede. It is best to practice this method in advance. You must understand what thoughts calm you down, how you can relax.
5. Understanding
Here you need to work on your desires and fears. Calculate the outcome of each situation in which you feel insecure. If you are afraid of communication with the opposite sex, determine what exactly scares you. Failure, ridicule, a feeling of unattractiveness in the eyes of the opposite sex or loneliness in the future. Often people's fears are far-fetched. For the most part, they worry only about the opinions of others. If you understand what you fear, you can work on your fear. You will be ready for any outcome of events, will not be nervous and shake with fear.
4. Awareness or professionalism
You probably noticed that you become much more confident if you are competent in the matter under discussion. Even the most shy student is more likely to pass the exam if he has prepared. A person who has certain knowledge will not become nervous and afraid. He will calmly find a solution to the problem, will be able to establish communication with others. By the way, sometimes it is not necessary to be a professional in one or another field. Enough superficial awareness. But remember, the higher your professional level, the more confident you feel.
3. Friendliness
If you have a meeting or conversation with an “important” person, try to tune in a friendly manner. Be polite, follow the rules of conduct. Try to please this person. You may be able to find out what style of clothing he prefers. But do not go too far, do not act as if it is your old friend. Always remember one thing: it is primarily a person with their problems and concerns. If something goes wrong, it is unlikely that he will remember this all his life, especially if he tells this incident to others. If this is a teacher, consider how many exams he has already taken. If the personnel manager, how many interviews he conducted. You are not the only one, do not exaggerate your significance.
2. Self-knowledge
It is very important to learn to accept yourself as you are. Listen to your feelings and emotions, do not listen to other people. Their desires and opinions should not affect yours. An insecure person constantly seeks approval and support from others. If she is not there, he is nervous, worried. The opinions of others are not so important. By the way, this goes away with age. The older a person, the more indifferent he is to others. Unfortunately, there are exceptions to the rules. Some people, and at a venerable age, are concerned about the opinions of other people.
1. Analysis of your personality
To find the causes of uncertainty, you need to analyze the personality. You can work on your own, if there is no effect, then contact a specialist. It will help you get rid of misconceptions about yourself, understand your psychological state, help determine the causes and get rid of uncertainty. But do not hope that you can shift the solution to the problem on the shoulders of a specialist. You have to work. Recently, trainings of personal growth have become popular, where an analysis of personality is also carried out. Participants struggle with their fears and problems, but do not expect a quick result. To become self-confident, you need to invest a lot of energy.