Life is multifaceted and beautiful. Of course, in order not to bitterly regret about the ill-conceived actions that do not color the person’s decisions, the methods described below will help find a way out.
It is important to maintain an optimistic attitude and desire to act in any situation.
10. Make a “Cartesian Square”
Most often, you need to make a decision on a matter quickly or very quickly. After all, the most important thing sometimes is to gain time. Descartes Square is currently a simple technique that will help make the right decision.
- You need to take a piece of paper and a pen.
- Divide the sheet into four parts and write out four questions:
- What will happen if this happens?
You need to focus and write as many positive answers as possible. That a person will benefit from such a development of events.
- What will happen if this does not happen?
The answers should reflect the moments that suit the person. What will be good if you do nothing and give time to the road.
For example, if the expected event will take place at the height of summer, and in the yard is now “dead” winter. In such a situation, it is better to wait and not flog a fever.
- What will not happen if this happens?
It is advisable to honestly evaluate what a person will lose, what he will lose.
- What will not happen if this does not happen?
The hardest question. When a person gives answers, you cannot write them off from the previous question. We must pay attention to the double negation.
It is obvious that there will not be a situation in which "both the sheep and the wolves are full."
9. Expand the scope
The meaning of this technique is that a person should set a clear goal that will help get out of a crisis situation. Do not ask: “Why did it happen to me exactly?” And to set a goal and move towards its solution.
With this arrangement of thoughts, actions will be performed, and if you sit still and chew on mental chewing gum in search of the causes of what happened, then there will be no sense.
This method allows you to go beyond public opinion and, possibly, solve the problem in your own way.
8. Remove one of the options
On a piece of paper write down all the desired options for solving problems. And analyze what skills, abilities, natural talents, developed abilities already exist at the time of a conflict.
Cut off one at a time which, by no means, can be fulfilled or performed with minimal psychological losses. Surely many will agree that a sea captain cannot be deaf-deaf.
7. Ask for advice
One can imagine that a person in life is faced with a situation for the first time. And there is no knowledge, life experience, optimism to push the stumbling block from its path.
You need to "look around." And share with your environment a worrying issue.
Moreover, it is necessary to start a conversation with the words: "help me, please." People are so arranged that if they themselves cannot help, they will redirect them to those who are more competent.
6. Drink a glass of water
The technique was developed by Jose Silva, a famous American parapsychologist. It is known that water is capable of transmitting information. Therefore, it can be charged for success, for the fulfillment of desire.
Before going to bed, a glass of water is taken. Anyone but not boiled. It should be kept at the level of the solar plexus. And mentally, it is very clearly necessary to formulate the task. Any!
After that, eyes are closed and half a glass of water is drunk with the words that a person drinks everything that needs to be done to solve this issue.
In the morning, the remaining water is drunk with the same words that this is all that “I need to do to resolve this issue.” The answer is not long in coming.
5. Give yourself a respite
This technique is difficult for people who are energetic, who lead an active lifestyle, who live by the here and now principle. But even such haste women need to know that not all situations in life are of an emergency nature, unless the person is an employee of the rapid response services.
And this means that when a time-out is taken, a respite to think about everything, there is an opportunity to just recover, reduce the traumatic factor by physical removal. Emotion is a bad adviser.
4. Find out more information.
A famous proverb says: "Forewarned - means armed." To balance the interests of the parties, for example, in the family, between dear people, where a bad world is better than a good war, you need to use additional information.
3. Give up emotions
They are dangerous in making decisions, both the state of euphoria, and the state of anger, anger. In the old German army, the charter contained a provision that forbade reporting on the day of the conflict, otherwise, ignoring this provision was considered guilty.
The rule 10/10/10 helps to extinguish an untimely emotional impulse. It says that it is advisable to ask successive three questions: “How will I relate to my choice in 10 minutes; after 10 months; 10 years". An excellent rule of thumb.
2. Set your life priorities
Priorities are a powerful component of spiritual life. By their presence, one can judge the maturity of the individual. About the choice of a person at every current moment of life.
It is known that if "you chase two birds with one stone, you will not catch one." And if you are guided by what life is valuable and for whom a person is responsible, making a choice is somewhat easier.
Now is the time for partnerships. Personal growth. Professional ambition. Religious motives. All of them are separate, and together.
In combination with the difference in age, they infinitely adorn a person's life. But if you build the main directions, it is possible to get away from stressful choices. Boldly and confidently.
1. Trust your intuition
You must trust your understanding, the inner vision of current events. Moments of insight, empathy, your life experience.
It is necessary to consider events from the point of view of the similarity of situations, the experience of the information read, psychological patterns.
Most importantly, intuition can be developed, and in place with it, flexibility and mobility in solving psychological issues.