If you read the classics, it becomes clear that only the scenery is changing, and people remain the same.
Still, everyone cares about eternal questions - love, passion, relationships, etc.
No matter how old you are, you always want to like the opposite sex. But how to do that? Psychologists have found answers to these questions.
10. You look alike
Often people fall in love with those who are like them, i.e. they have almost the same shape of the nose or lips.
Psychologists write that a person at the subconscious level loves his appearance, is looking for a person who would be his copy.
Scientists from St. Andrews University were able to prove this back in 2009. During the experiments, it was possible to establish that women always choose men whose appearance is the same as theirs.
Scientists from the University of Liverpool came to the same conclusion in 2006. Experts argue that a similar appearance cannot but attract, but if people have different interests in life, goals, then the relationship will end due to constantly arising conflicts.
9. High levels of adrenaline in the blood
Recent studies have shown that adrenaline acts like an aphrodisiac. Not everyone is ready to jump with a parachute or engage in other extreme sports for the sake of attracting attention.
But modern technology allows us to do without it. To increase the level of adrenaline, you can watch a video with an exciting plot.
Adrenaline not only attracts the opposite sex, but also helps to get rid of nervous tension, as well as remain calm and confident.
8. Modesty
If you look at the meaning of the word "modesty", it becomes clear that it implies the ability to control oneself, to remain calm and restrained.
If we consider this concept more broadly, it means moderation, indifference to excesses and luxurious life, lack of pride, decency, etc.
As we see, modesty is a good trait that should not be abandoned. Do not confuse modesty and isolation, these are two different things.
Real modesty is the result of education. A person is not just afraid of communication, he behaves in a similar way consciously, showing a strong-willed effort.
7. Optimism
Sad people loaded with their problems are not interested in the opposite sex.
Everyone in life has their own troubles. But this does not mean that you need to constantly think about them.
If problems arise, they must be addressed. Think over a strategy, draw up a plan, discuss with loved ones. If we consider them from this point of view, all the troubles can be perceived as small obstacles on the road.
People who are easy on everything attract the opposite sex, because everyone wants happiness, joy. And we at the level of instincts understand that we can achieve this only next to those who radiate optimism.
6. Diverse interests
Beautiful appearance and a charming smile, undoubtedly, attracts the views of the opposite sex.
But, after meeting young people need to talk about something. The wider the circle of interests, the more chances there are to find common ground.
If a guy and a girl, as a result of communication, find out that they have a lot in common, it is easier for them to build harmonious relationships.
5. Sincere laughter
University of California scientist Greg Bryant believes laughter helps establish social contact. It shows that the person is friendly and does not pose a threat to others. But such an effect is only a sincere laugh.
Studies conducted by the scientist and his colleagues have proved that in most cases we guess which laughter is artificial and which is real. Children recognize him especially well.
4. Confidence
This feeling helps us to walk through life with our heads held high. Often it is precisely because of him that we easily overcome obstacles and make our dreams come true.
A confident person always appreciates himself and accepts as he is, while he does not overestimate and underestimate. He knows how to fend for himself, but he will never argue for nothing. If the charges are unfair, he will fight back, and in other cases he will accept criticism.
Confident people respect themselves, which means they respect others. These are strong personalities that attract the same partners. It’s easier for them to build relationships, because they are preconfigured kindly.
3. Adequate to embarrassing situations
An awkward situation can arise at any time. So, in front of a person who you like, you can stumble and fall. But it is worth treating such things with humor.
We are all human beings, and we can all be trapped. There are no ideal people in the world who would always do everything right.
If suddenly you acted stupidly, thoughtlessly, not necessarily with tears in your eyes, run home and hide under the covers. This is life, no one will blame you, everyone will understand. And if after that you find the strength to smile and joke, you will cause sincere admiration.
2. Sensitivity
Psychologists are increasingly talking about such a method of communication as empathy. This is a state where one person perceives the inner world of another, while preserving all his emotional shades. Such a person rejoices when others are happy next to him, and is upset if the rest is bad.
In ordinary, unscientific language, this is called sensitivity. Empathic listening helps to fully express your feelings, to show that you are interested in the interlocutor.
As psychologists say, thanks to this feature, a deeper understanding of the partner appears. But it is important to distinguish between your emotions and those that arise in response to the emotions of another.
1. Kindness
L.N. Tolstoy said that it is good that is the highest and eternal goal of our life. We can differently understand what good is, but always the main thing in a person is the desire for good.
Kind people always attract others to themselves, because next to them is light and good.
An evil person thinks only about himself and his own good. He is not interested in others, and if they are, only as a sexual partner or for other purposes.
Coldness, indifference repels, while kindness has always attracted and will attract other people.