Love is the most beautiful feeling, bright, pure. He is able to step over himself, will do everything to make his beloved person happy.
In most cases, true love is out of the question. Much more common is love, passion, sympathy. All this quickly passes, only memories remain.
Not always everything ends so happily. If a person is emotionally unstable, emotional dependence may develop. She is also very often confused with love. It is not so easy to get rid of this condition.
By the way, psychologists say that emotional dependence is the most common reason that people ask for help. Man loses himself; he cannot live without his object of adoration. He destroys his life day after day.
No one can help such a person regain himself, except himself. Again, he will not take any action if he is sure that this is love.
Below are 10 signs that will help distinguish between love and emotional dependence. Most often, women are affected by this condition.
10. You are too jealous
At all times, jealousy was considered a sign of love. If you are jealous of your partner, do not make hasty conclusions. This does not mean that you are emotionally addicted. If you maintain common sense and do not see a rival in each lamppost, you should not worry.
If the situation is just the opposite, and you cannot cope with the feelings that have piled on you, it's time to think. Jealousy can ruin your life and the life of your partner.
Incidentally, this is the most common reason murders are committed. If you are very jealous of your beloved, you can’t pull yourself together, then something is wrong in your relationship.
9. You are panicky afraid of losing it
You can’t even imagine that someday your beloved will leave you, but this thought does not leave your head. You are very afraid that he will meet another woman or just fall out of love with you and go nowhere.
If this is love, you will make any decision of your chosen one, it will not be easy, but you can survive this period.
In the case of emotional dependence, the attitude to this situation is completely different. You constantly feel this fear, you eavesdrop on the telephone conversations of your chosen one, read messages.
You have long known the password from his email and social networks. You want your loved one to belong only to you.
8. Your world has narrowed to one person
It’s bad if your world is focused only on your loved one. You do not communicate with friends, you are not interested in other people. You want only one thing: that your chosen one would be near. You have no hobbies, you are not interested in anything.
If this is about you, you should think about your life. Even if the partner loves you, he is unlikely to be happy with this state of affairs, and soon you will become uninteresting for him.
7. You abandon everything and cancel all plans for the sake of a loved one
A loving person, of course, can cancel all plans for the sake of a loved one, but only if he is in danger or he needs help.
In any other situation, it’s better not to do this, otherwise soon the partner will "sit on your neck." He will get used to the fact that you are always there, ready to rush to him at the first call.
If you understand this, all is not lost. If you are not ready to change, most likely you have a manic dependence on this person.
6. You need his assessment
Of course, people who are in a relationship value each other’s opinions, but everything is good in moderation. If you do not pay attention to the advice of close relatives and friends, believe only your chosen one, it is worth considering.
There are many sad stories when a woman believed only in her man. He shamelessly used it.
Everyone knows that to keep a partner close by, it is enough to work on his self-esteem. If the girl has a soft character, she will begin to think that no one except her “benefactor" needs her.
5. You worry about how others perceive you
Despite a strong attachment to a partner, you are not indifferent to his feelings, feelings. You are not interested in his inner world, but you are worried about his appearance, clothing and manners.
You want your couple to make a good impression on others. It is important for you that other people approve of your choice. If you have such thoughts, this is a sure sign of emotional dependence.
If a woman truly loves a man, she will not pay attention to the opinions of others. She is sure that she made the right choice, she does not need to seek approval from relatives or acquaintances.
If you depend on your chosen one, you will try to do everything so that your relationship seems better than it really is.
4. You seek to remake a partner
Similar situation. A woman who has found herself a suitable “object” understands that he is far from ideal. Not at all about such a man, she dreamed. Unfortunately, she will not be able to accept a man with all his shortcomings and advantages. After all, this is not love, but dependence.
But she will hope that she can redo it. A woman is ready to do everything so that her chosen one turns into an ideal man.
3. You control everything
The behavior of addicted people from the outside looks rather contradictory. Today they swear eternal love, tomorrow they are trying to change the character and appearance of their partner, and the day after tomorrow they are making scandals.
Whatever action an emotionally dependent woman takes, she will try to keep the situation under her control.
She wants her partner to listen to her opinion and do only what she says. If the chosen one has his own point of view, she will use all kinds of manipulation methods: tears, tantrums, and encouragement.
2. You sincerely believe that your life will end without him
Everything happens in life. People come and go, but you do not allow the thought that something could happen to your man. You believe that if he leaves this world, you will go after him. Of course, it’s better not to think about it at all.
If you are not dependent on your partner, these thoughts will not occur to you. People who love each other are happy, they enjoy every moment, and do not think what will happen if one of them dies.
1. Your self-esteem depends on him
It has already been noted above that a man can easily manipulate a woman if he manages to lower her self-esteem. This is not to say that a man does not affect the self-esteem of an emotionally independent woman. On the contrary, if he regularly gives her compliments, gives flowers, anyone will feel welcome, the most beautiful and sexy woman in the world.
If a man will humiliate, call names or treat as a piece of furniture, self-esteem will decrease. But only if a woman is emotionally dependent on her chosen one, she will endure, any other will go to collect things.
If you allow your partner this kind of behavior, think about what keeps you next to this person? If this is not love, but emotional dependence, you cannot be happy in this relationship. Get yourself together and start life anew.