When marrying a pathological jealous, many naive girls think that they can overcome this feature of their future spouse by simply not giving cause for jealousy.
However, such frivolity is almost always not justified, as a jealous person usually does not need any special reason to provoke a scandal once again and cover his other half with undeserved custody and humiliating suspicions.
Therefore, for those women who, in spite of everything, want to save their family, 10 tips from psychologists will be useful, which will help save her husband from the obsessive delirium of jealousy.
10. Do not put up with the situation
First of all, you need to understand that the pathological jealousy of a partner is a serious enough problem that can poison the lives of both spouses and even bring them to a divorce. Therefore, you should not turn a blind eye to all this, hoping that itself will pass over time.
If the problem is not resolved, the crisis in your relationship will become more and more aggravated, and your husband’s behavior may simply become inappropriate or even aggressive.
9. Talk frankly
When your husband will be in a benevolent mood, try to speak frankly with him about the current situation and explain to him that this state of affairs does not suit you, and that this problem needs to be addressed.
Try to find out what is the reason for his distrust - perhaps the fault is the negative experience of previous relationships or children's psychological trauma. Only during this conversation, refrain from reproaches and do not say that you are tired of his suspicions.
Focus on the fact that you are primarily worried about your relationship and afraid to lose it.
If you are really dear to him, he will perceive your message adequately and will try to meet you.
8. Get closer
The pathological jealous perceives any understatement as a potential threat, therefore he always reacts sharply if something arises in your relationship with him that he does not fully understand. Therefore, in order to avoid additional conflicts, try to be as open with him as possible.
Go to various events together, discuss with him everything that happened to you during the day, only this should look like a friendly conversation, not an interrogation. This way you will become closer and learn to trust each other.
7. The best defense is assault
If you have been tormented by constant scenes of jealousy and the husband’s desire to completely control your life, you can give him the opportunity to at least once feel like a person who is constantly forced to make excuses to his dubious partner.
Arrange for him at least once a jealousy scene similar to the one that he arranges for you regularly. Call him every half hour to ask where he is and with whom, in other words, make him justify himself just as well, then maybe he will not forget about his suspicions for a while, and if he is lucky, he will even understand the inadmissibility and senselessness of his behavior .
6. More warmth
If your jealous man is still very dear to you and you do not want to part with him, then try to show your love more often: praise him, tell him that he is dear to you, and that you do not need anyone else.
Psychologists say that among the pathological jealous there are a lot of men whose mothers were very cold, so at one time they did not give them a sufficient portion of tenderness and love. Such men do not know how to build relationships based on trust, so they constantly wait for a dirty trick and subconsciously prepare for betrayal.
In order to smooth out this pedagogical defect a little, you need to show a little maternal tenderness and affection towards your husband. Remember that trust, which is the key to a strong relationship, is a gift to be earned.
5. Do not knowingly provoke a spouse in order to aggravate feelings
Undoubtedly, in some cases, slight jealousy can add pepper to the relationship, add a little passion, and for a certain category of men this is absolutely exciting.
However, such manipulations should not be carried out with a man whose jealousy has acquired an obsessive state. He will not understand the jokes, will not accept your excuses, but will throw a scandal at you and establish itself in the thought that you cannot be trusted.
In addition, do not forget that in a fit of jealousy, some men completely lose control of themselves, become aggressive, and it may even come to assault. Therefore, it is not necessary to extinguish the fire with kerosene and provoke a spouse. Warm his interest in yourself by other means.
4. Do not tell your husband about your past relationship.
Such revelations can hurt any man, especially suffering from obsessive jealousy. Until a certain moment, he may be jealous of some abstract man, and when you tell him with whom you had a close relationship with him, the image of an opponent in his sick imagination will take on very real features.
If this is your former classmate, classmate or just a person who lives nearby, so you regularly meet with him regularly, then be prepared for systematic reproaches, increased control of phone calls and correspondence in social networks. And, of course, scandals occurring over trifles will become more frequent.
3. Respect your spouse in public
Make it a rule, always in a respectful manner to talk about your soul mate in the presence of his colleagues, relatives, friends.
Even if he himself does not hear this, then someone will definitely tell him about what praises his own wife “sings” to him.
This will not only be able to increase the self-esteem of the distrustful spouse and once again will show him how much you care about him and how you value him.
2. Help him find an interesting hobby
Give the jealous person a spinning, table hockey or other men's “toy”. Let him be busy not only with building fantasies about your possible betrayals, but also with another interesting matter.
When a part of his thoughts spills over, you can get rid of his excessive custody, reproaches and suspicions, which are usually born from idleness.
1. Get help from a professional
If this person is really dear to you and you intend, despite everything, to live with him all his life, then you need to use the most effective methods to preserve not only family, but also harmonious relations with your spouse.
Therefore, first of all, you should persuade your jealous second half to attend a family session of psychotherapy.
It will be easier for a specialist to understand the current situation and outline a treatment plan with an objective mind that has not been blurred by personal relationships.