Negative thoughts can undermine your health. Sooner or later, stress, feelings, and self-eating will become the causes of neurosis, depression, heart disease, etc.
Also, all this affects the appearance. Want your skin to become dull, quickly fade and wrinkle? Keep tormenting yourself with negative thoughts.
Even if you are young and attractive, negative thoughts create a certain atmosphere around you. A sullen person focused only on his experiences cannot be attractive. She attracts the same people who, instead of pulling her out of the swamp of emotions, help to get into it with her head.
Therefore, it is so important to work on yourself, to remove everything bad from your head. And then life will sparkle with new colors.
10. Regrets about the past
You may have made any mistakes in the past. But you should not regret anything. If you did this, then it was necessary. That was your upbringing, worldview at that moment. You simply could not do otherwise.
Any mistake is an invaluable experience. Maybe you just think that you did wrong. And no one knows how your life would have developed then.
This illusion of lost happiness is a hoax. Happiness does not depend on people and circumstances; it is an inner sensation that comes if we are in harmony with ourselves.
9. Self-pity
Sometimes you feel like sitting down in a chair, turning on sad music and plunging into a world of sadness, crying, pitying yourself and your wasted years.
But this is the position of a weak person. The child cannot control the circumstances; he is forced to obey his parents or other adults.
But an independent adult man rules his own life. I don’t like work - find another, friends offend me - figure out what you are doing wrong, do not develop a relationship with your mother - move to a rented apartment.
We choose how we live. And it makes no sense to revel in self-pity, especially since demanding it from others. We have one life, and there is no time to endure.
Live here and now, build your own happiness, and do not rely on Santa Claus or another wizard who will deal with your problems.
8. Envy
We know that envy is bad since kindergarten. We burn ourselves from the inside, because sure that other less worthy people get what you don’t have. But this is a meaningless feeling.
It seems to you that everything is perfect for others. But it only seems to you. There are not so many happy people on Earth, and happiness does not depend on material wealth, the presence of a husband (wife) or prestigious work.
You just can’t get into the soul of another person and find out all his feelings. All of us, regardless of status and position in society, are unhappy. Does it make sense to envy?
7. Demanding for oneself, perfectionism
Often we ourselves unnecessarily overstate the bar. Do you want to be the perfect person? But there are no such people. This must be understood and accepted. We all have our flaws, just not all of them stick out and show.
Accept your weaknesses or start to change. But do not torment yourself with reproaches, engage in self-discipline. Instead of helping, you destroy yourself. Remember that in addition to the shortcomings you have a lot of advantages.
6. The desire to find problems where they do not exist
How often do we ourselves create problems out of the blue. Instead of simplifying the life of ourselves and others as much as possible, we begin to invent what is not.
For example, you met an old acquaintance, but he did not greet you. Often right away we start to wind up ourselves, look for insults, and ourselves begin to take offense at him.
But there are thousands of other explanations for his act. Maybe today he forgot to put on contact lenses, and just did not see you. Maybe he has serious troubles at work or in his personal life, so he was lost in his thoughts.
If you didn’t buy something or didn’t do it - this is not the end of the world, buy and do later, offend someone - apologize. There is nothing but the death of loved ones that could not be fixed and without which it is impossible to do.
5. Anger
Do you often get angry? If so, then you should understand why this happens. Anger is a consequence of internal pain. Who or what hurts you, why does it hurt you so much?
Whatever the answers to these questions, you need to deal with them. If you can’t do it yourself, contact a psychologist for help.
Anger not only makes us unattractive in the eyes of other people, but also shortens life expectancy.
4. The desire to fuss, do as many things as possible in a short period of time
If you are a serious, business person, it is important to plan your day so that there is no room for haste in it. Scatter the points of what you will do in the next few days. Leave a margin of time. And you can live in peace.
You need to enjoy life. How can you enjoy it if you have to constantly run somewhere, rush and hurry?
3. Greed and selfishness
Are you only absorbed in your own needs? Do you want your desires to be satisfied at all costs? This prevents you from feeling happy because you lose the ability to love other people.
Love is a mutual feeling, in order to receive attention and care from others, you need to share the warmth yourself. A person who loves and loves, blossoms and becomes beautiful.
2. The desire to always and in everything to win
Being the first is not so bad, healthy ambitions help us move forward. But you cannot always be the first in everything. If you decide to be a winner at all costs, forgetting about your health, rest, sleep, you should not be surprised that the appearance has become not so attractive, and constant stresses have to be seized.
Why do you need someone to prove something? If there is a need for this, this may indicate a low self-esteem. It is necessary to work on this. Each has its own advantages and disadvantages, it is not at all necessary to be the best in everything.
1. Dissatisfaction with my life
You may not be happy with the way you live. But if you scold and harass yourself or your parents, your spouse, this will not help you change anything. On the contrary, you can bring yourself or loved ones to a nervous breakdown, and conquering new horizons in this state is much more difficult.
Learn to be more positive, smile at people, look at things and see beauty in them. If you succeed, then people will reach for you, there will be good job offers that will help you realize your dream.